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BOOK OF THE DAY:
SISTER GOLDEN HAIR, by Darcey Steinke.
Dear Ones —
Here's a novel that I love…which just came out in print TODAY.
The author, Darcey Steinke, is an old friend of mine. (Longtime followers of this page may recall that I have many times recommended her spiritual memoir EASTER EVERYWHERE — a book that I also deeply adore and admire.)
Darcey has written a really wonderful, haunting, emotionally-accurate, richly-crafted novel here. It's about a 12 year-old girl in 1972, who is struggling to come of age at freaky and unsettled moment in American culture (when the country was suffering a hangover from the 1960s, and seemed a bit lost and confused and distracted — just like every adult in this story.)
If you click on the link below, you'll see an interview I did with Darcey about her inspiration for this novel. I think the book is really incredible, and I've been waiting eagerly for this day to arrive, so I can finally recommend it to you!
Just one more piece of personal background…just to let you know what Darcey means to me, I will say this: I wrote EAT PRAY LOVE to her. I have a practice, before I begin writing any book, to decide specifically who it is for. I think it's important that books be written to people — to one person, actually — in order to bring out the most intimate voice of the writer. The question I have to ask myself with each new project is, "Who am I talking to here?" Each one of my books has been written to a different person. It's a very important decision to make, because the way you feel about that person will completely determine the voice and tone of the book you write, since you are essentially speaking directly to that one reader. Darcey was the one person I was speaking to in every word of EPL — a friend I love, a writer I admire, a deeply passionate spiritual seeker. EAT PRAY LOVE is basically a letter I wrote just for her.
So…that's who SHE is! A rather important figure in my life, to be sure!
And SISTER GOLDEN HAIR is, I can say with delight, my book of the day!
Sister Golden Hair
When Jesse’s family moves to Roanoke, Virginia, in the summer of 1972, she’s twelve years old and already mindful of the schism between innocence and femininity, the gap between childhood and the world of adults. Her father, a former pastor, cycles through spiritual disciplines as quickly as he cycl…
A friend of this page sent me this yesterday…I love it, of course!
In fact, with the exception of perhaps switching around the order of "kick ass" and "be kind", I think it's just about the best morning message there could be.
RISE AND SHINE, all you kind and beautiful ass-kickers!
WHO IS IN CHARGE OF YOU?
Those of you who watched my interview yesterday on Super Soul Sunday heard me say this to Oprah about my own life — that things didn't start changing for me until I took 100% accountability for the care of my own soul. Which is to say — 100% accountability for my own life.
This doesn't mean becoming an island. One of the ways that I take responsibility for my soul is to surround myself with loving and caring people, and to reach out when I need help to the right people, the most honorable people, the most wise people. If I am the steward of this life (my own) then I must often seek assistance from those who can be of aid and comfort to me as I am trying to shape my own journey.
But ultimately, other people can only help me; they cannot save me.
My state of mind, my state of being, is entirely my own responsibility.
I spoke yesterday about the awful old question, "Who am I going to blame my life on today?" — a question which I still facetiously ask myself at times, when I find myself slipping into blame and resentment. Like: "Come on, Liz, seriously? You're still looking for somebody to pin your life on? Who is responsible for your soul? Are you seriously still putting that responsibility in somebody else's hands?"
Yes, people disappoint you. Yes, people can hurt you horribly. Yes, the world is unfair and sometimes cruel — but that has always been part of the contract. (It's not even in the small print: It's pretty much the bold print headline of the contract.) The world never pretended or promised anyone that it would not sometimes be terribly unfair and cruel (or at least that it would not sometimes be utterly incomprehensible.)
Still: Who is charge of YOU?
This is the question that drove me on my Eat Pray Love journey, and it is the question that drives me still. I ask myself this question every single day of my life, and the answer is always the same:
I am in charge of me.
What other choice is there? Sure, there are other choices, but they are all pretty terrible, and they all end in weakness and in tears.
You may have also heard me say yesterday, "No happiness without self-accontabilty."
I have never met a happy person who did not hold themselves 100% accountable for their own self.
Because that is where your dignity will be found.
When I slip on my self-accountabilty, the results are always the same: Sorrow, anger, resentment, blame, bitterness, retribution, chaos, self-pity, helplessness, conflict, shame.
So I ask myself over and over again in those messy situations: Who is in charge of YOU, Liz?
And somewhere deep inside, the best and wisest part of me always rises up and says, "I am."
Five minutes till Super Soul Sunday, everyone!
See you there for Part 2 of my interview with Oprah!
(You can watch it on OWN-TV, or you can LIVESTREAM it right here: https://ift.tt/1lqTLPW)
I'll be live tweeting from my Twitter handle: https://ift.tt/1cJMtUe
And I'll try to respond to your comments here, too!
MULTI-TASKING THE SOCIAL MEDIA TODAY, DEAR ONES!